tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2405037892739734846.post8706339441334620324..comments2021-05-11T03:36:00.789-07:00Comments on Femdom Book Reviews: Book Misdescriptions - why is female agency over emaphasized in blurbs?SunnyGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14604191788812626246noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2405037892739734846.post-39585577310414044412013-01-30T12:12:31.212-08:002013-01-30T12:12:31.212-08:00I'm tempted to quote almost everything you say...I'm tempted to quote almost everything you say so that I can say - 'Yes, I so agree, and also.....'. For the sake of everyone's sanity, I'll content myself with saying it just once. <br /><br />I think that ultimately you're suggesting that it's option 2: Readers think (or say) that they want strong female characters, but actually like stupid and or submissive female characters. I was afraid of that. <br /><br />Thanks for dropping by - it's awesome to have your perspective on this. :)SunnyGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14604191788812626246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2405037892739734846.post-22866696315222184232013-01-29T16:06:07.312-08:002013-01-29T16:06:07.312-08:00Sorry for the late comment. Been reading this blog...Sorry for the late comment. Been reading this blog for a while, good work. As a dominant woman and someone who loves books I'm always sad about the lack of F/m style relationships in books. <br /><br />Now, I don't actually read erotica/romance books (in part because they seem to focus so much on male dominance). But I love a good romance as a subplot. I've also noticed the same issue you describe here in non-romance books. Mainly urban fantasy books which of course often have pretty heavy romance elements and also kinky-ish stuff. <br /><br />Now urban fantasy books are FILLED with "strong", "kick-ass", "feisty" and "independent" heroines that are usually just TSTL, cliche, mary sues and of course almost always find some strong alpha werewolf to dominate them. It's gotten to the point that if the heroine of the book is described with one of those words I will avoid the book. <br /><br />I think women in general get extremely defensive when their independence and strenght is questioned. I sometimes kinda roll my eyes at how every sub woman I've talked to seems to make a huge point about how they are totally not doormats and are actually super confident and bossy outside bedroom blah blah. And the typical "succesful people want to submit sexually to relax" which I see as nothing but armchair psychology - where is the proof? I understand why sub women do it. But the truth is that there is nothing special about not being a doormat, it doesn't make you fiercly indpendent or special snowflake. <br /><br />So I think that women who read these books want to experience all the submissiviness and being a helpless, delicate flower that the man must protect because that is what most women still want romantically and sexually. Women may not believe in the princess fantasy anymore, but they sure still want it! But at the same time they don't want to give up their respected place as an independent modern woman. They want to keep their cake and eat it too and it results on these kinds of stories all over the media where there is so much talk about how strong these ladies are but it never shows in their actions. <br /><br />When female characters are ACTUALLY strong they very easily get accused of being "bitchy" or "stuck up" or whatever. People are more critical to female than male characters. So if you write a relationship where the lady is in charge, people easily see it as her treating him bad and being a shrew... <br /><br />This is a long comment already but I also want to say that I believe that in order for a femdom romance book to gain mainstream fame it would have to find the audience outside the usual romance readers. Romance reading women are rather conservative bunch and they love their alpha men and gender roles. I don't ever see femdom story becoming big in that market, I think the people who actually would be interested such as myself stay away from romance genre. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com